Are you afraid to ask for what you need?
Often we are told that asking for support or help is a sign of weakness.
I am here today to remind you that asking for support is a form of self care.
I remember the first time I realized that I needed more support than what my friends and family could offer me.
I was working with the Al-Anon program, recovering from heartbreak of navigating addiction of family members, friends that didn't survive their addiction, and leaving an ex-fiancee that was living a double life.⠀
I thought that I could make it through on my own insight and self-work. But it was clear it wasn't working⠀
I often found myself lashing out on the people around me that were trying to help.⠀
My drinking was out of control.
My life had become unmanageable in the smallest insidious ways.
It was 2008 and I realized that I needed to get help from a professional or else my emotional wounds were going to keep me bleeding all over the people that I loved.
I saw the writing on the wall - this was only going to get worst.
The deepest act of self-reliance I've demonstrated over the years is rising up to ask for support, help, insight, guidance.
I've got a whole team of therapists, coaches and healers that aid me along the path.⠀
The truth is that the antidote to shame you might feel in asking for help is being open to receiving that support.
You don't have to suffer in silence.
Our mistakes, our imperfections are signs of our humanity.
Our ability to ask for help is evidence of our self-reliance.
Accepting personal responsibility for what is or is not working in your life will free you up to seek support and grow stronger on your journey.